Michael Mitchell: Archive

Yeah. "Ideal understanding partner" is contradictory. If the "understanding" characteristic isn't included in the "ideal" evaluation, then it's merely rationalizing romantic compatibilty. In other words, a male "Andrew Tate" isn't interested in a female "Andrew Tate".

There's no reason, however, one may not find and be romantically involved with multiple "ideal partners", especially considering the length of a lifetime. It simply wouldn't require "understanding" -- in the sense of agreeing to disagree or looking the other way or weighing the costs versus the benefits and living with the disappointment or whatever -- because everyone involved would share similar values.